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转载:求助广大知友!!!女儿三年没叫过我一声“爸爸”,是我的问题吗?
女儿15岁那年发生的事 平时她妈妈在家照顾她和她弟弟比较多,我工作比较忙,常年不在家,平时几乎也没什么交流,那年家里刚买了新房子搬过来,她平时也会在家帮她妈妈干点家务。 有天晚上,她忘记把晾在阳台的衣服收进来,她妈妈责怪了她几句,她就跟妈妈顶起嘴来,气冲冲就要往自己卧室里走,一点也不尊重父母,她妈妈气不过,从后面抓住她头发打了她几巴掌。她居然就冲回自己房间,关门声音很大,还把门给锁上了。 我老婆听到后气不过追上去骂她,发现门反锁了用钥匙也打不开,我看她这么顶撞她妈妈气也不打一处来,平时估计也没少顶撞她妈妈,就拿了家里的斧头把门给劈开了。 打开门后发现她开着窗户站在那里,居然打算跳楼,她妈妈冲过去打了她,心里也是很生气,嘴里说气话,说让她赶紧跳,她倒是一直都没哭也没说话,站在那里挨打。我看她这倔样子也是气得很,抬手打了她一巴掌,没控制好力道把她鼻子打出血了,她还是不哭不吭声。 我老婆看她这个样子情绪激动了点,打得狠了点,又抓她的头往墙上撞了几下,但是都被她自己用手挡住了,没什么大碍,还想拖着她去跳楼吓唬她,被我拦了下来。 后来我老婆估计也是也消了气了,停手了。但是女儿身上的白色短袖都被血染红了,我冷静下来看到也是有些后悔,拉着老婆和儿子就去睡觉了。 女儿挨打的时候一直没哭,开着风扇坐在卧室地上一晚上没睡,第二天才去洗澡换衣服,躺在床上好几天没吃没喝,叫她吃饭也不理人,拆门的时候也不理人。 从这开始她就没再叫过我爸爸 我也主动跟她说过话,给她买过吃的,事后家里其他亲戚长辈也都劝过她,也骂过我们夫妻了,她还是不肯叫我。 家里吃穿用度都是我赚来的,而且明明是她妈妈打得更狠,她却过了几天就喊她妈妈了,我就打了她一巴掌到现在三年了,怎么也不肯喊我,这是为什么?我该教育她? reference: 求助广大知友!!!女儿三年没叫过我一声“爸爸”,是我的问题吗?
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转载:记一次被封控在公司又抗争到居家隔离的案例
封控期间的工作人员,摄于上周 先做事件综述吧,3 点半通知全楼封闭,后天凌晨 3 点被转送居家。中间在公司差不多连续 41 小时,中间休息了 3 小时。被转送到宿舍真的很不容易。下面细说:上周五下午三点半,得知楼内有阳性,当时并没有太在意,因为之前有过两次,做核酸就可以出去了,故继续工作,然后 4 点半左右,开始给安水马,这个时候才知道事情大条了。5 点钟发防护服,面罩,手套。第一次欺骗: 告诉我们昨晚核酸就可以去酒店或者“驿站”隔离,然后核酸做过后等到 11 点还是没人来接第二次欺骗:晚上 11 点多后告知单人单管都要做,做完后在公司隔离或者拉走(这时公司内部 6 个人,2 女四男,4 个休息床)。但是做完后等到凌晨 2 点半还是没人。这时下楼得知: 很多人都被拉去隔离或者出去居家隔离了。但是我们没人管,外面看着我们的大白也走了第三次欺骗: 第一夜在同事的单人床睡了 3 个小时,很冷,睡不着。我有脚气,也不敢脱鞋,脚与身上都很痒,3 点钟睡觉,早上 6 点就醒。醒了先打 12345 说明问题,然后下楼问蓝大褂,蓝大褂说: 放心,你们今天肯定能去酒店隔离,事实证明,他说的根本就不对这三次被耍猴消磨掉了我们所有人的耐心,不到一天的时间,做了三次核酸,全是绿码阴性。不是密接,也不是次密接,但就是不能走,也只能在公司隔离。点的外卖不让拿,说他们从大门口送过来。但是:从大厦入口到大厦门口这 100 米路,我们等了快一个小时都没人拿,下去后跟蓝大褂说,又等了 20 分钟,终于拿到了已经凉透的饭菜。同事都没说什么,默默吃饭准备下去要个说法。下午 6 点半应该,大家都下去了,申请转运,单子也交上去了。但还是没有人给一个准信,翻来覆去就是已经交上去了,凌晨的时候我们才得知:单子是交上去了,但是 8 点才交的,而我们给他们单子的事件是下午四点。从大厦门口一路闯到大厦入口,见到了封锁的总指挥,也提出了诉求:要给我们安排一个能睡觉洗漱的地方。得到的回复是: 自己所住地的社区必须愿意接收你才可以转运回去,需要居家隔离贴磁条。回复还算差强人意,因为觉得有床睡觉了,可以洗澡了。然后开始联系自己的社区人员。我住在龙岗。龙岗街道办几个公办电话推来推去最后给了我一个打不通的疫情办电话,社区工作人员很好,对我说愿意接收,只要符合规定就行。很感谢他们,凌晨 2 点,接我回去的车来到,坐车回去,凌晨 3 点,看到床了甚至有点想哭。 有同事住在莲花街道,是业主。社区对接更快了,第一个被接走。有同事住在南山,联系到社区人员也是很友好,愿意接收。有住在罗湖:社区表示不愿意接收,后面安排住到了酒店。有住在龙岗的,但跟我不是一个社区:网格员把她拉黑了,联系不到,后面自己联系到了其他的网格员,第二天还是回去了。 先说下自己感觉的事情吧: 信息极度不透明,我们根本不知道下一步该干什么,官方也没有拉群,什么都不知道,就三个字等通知导致恐慌情绪蔓延 不患寡而患不均。有的被封锁的人被拉到酒店隔离了,但是我们 6 个只能在公司隔离,这给了我们极大的不公平感。所有人都没休息好,所有人都很愤怒。为什么自己不是密接,也不是次密接就只能在公司隔离? 懒政的现象。街道办的人来了四波,每次都是说: 知道了,我们会处理。然后下一波的人过来就变成: 上一个过来的做了什么他也不知道,所以你们的诉求没办法处理,这个现象真的是极大的消耗了我们对街道办人员的信任感 各个部门的相互推诿。本来应该是街道办的人派车来接,但是几位同事找自己街道处理的时候遇到各种各样的事情,包括但不限于:疫情办电话打不通,疫情办接电话的下班了,疫情办故意甩锅,疫情办跟我同事说领导下班公章被锁处理不了等等等等。 5. 建群太晚了,第二天下午四五点才建群,第三天上午才开始发物资。这个时候所有没被运走的人怨气都很重了。一个楼被留下来的有三十多人,拉了一个群,里面从刚建群就开始在吵架。 靠天靠地不如靠自己,打了 110 ,12345 ,龙岗区信访渠道,福田区信访渠道。其中我必须夸一下福田的网络信访渠道:输入自己电话提示我电话格式不正确,然后当我准备修改在电话前加个 86 的时候提示我不能修改电话了嘻嘻。一个字,绝。大家都是同行,我也知道你是打工仔,但是你写这样代码逻辑的时候心不会痛吗?一线城市深圳的抗击疫情的压力都这么大,我们被封在公司的原因是:酒店与驿站都满了。唉多存钱,多学习,相信自己,相信谣言比通告要好。就这吧。唉。 reference: 记一次被封控在公司又抗争到居家隔离的案例 评论转载:都搞社区接收这种制度,过分了回自己家需要别人同意吗支持抗争 👍🏻吹上天的大数据这时候就像个笑话。我懂,怎么说我在深圳也被封了 4 次。就是疫情发生的时候,那些基层人员会乱成一锅粥,做事情毫无条理可言。他们知道的也不多,就一味听从、等待上级命令而已。我就纳闷了,既然要长期动态清零,你准备工作做好了吗?基层人员的培训有做吗?有长期的规划吗?@SuperXRay 首先需要先工作地区的街道办统一,然后将自己具体信息发给他们,他们转交给所住地区的街道办,所住地区的街道办收到后回函确认才能回去。回去也要自己的街道办派车来点对点接走。非常麻烦。人少了还有效率,人一多就别谈效率了,轮到就已经很不错了 @dlsflh 第二天下去跟大白要求转运的时候居然有个红码还有被拉走。。 那个人都急了,在那里喊:我都是红马了为什么还不拉我走,还要我在公司隔离。。。 是不是老板早跑了 流程之前也是这样,不过人手不够的时候就完了,时间会拉的很长。流程都是社区 ->街道 ->转运组,而且你突然间大范围密接,谁来转运都处理不过来的,每个人的信息都要登记,而不是你这批密接,就全部拉走,都要申请下来才能转运过去。反正我挺心疼那些第三方聘请的社区人员,领到手两三千,半夜还在加班。其实对 OP 如何 [从大厦门口一路闯到大厦入口,见到了封锁的总指挥] 这段比较好奇 @wetalk 显示吵架,过了门口,然后一脚把核酸检测台子给踹翻了。把水马给推开了。就一路走到入口了@dlsflh 抗疫的时候是笑话,但是抗议的时候就不是了。(逃)支持抗争 👍🏻以前我觉得牧羊犬能管那么一大堆羊不可思议,最近发现我们也经常好几千人被几个人就封控在那。我也说说 10 月封 7 天酒店的事吧。广州一写字楼,同层的公司有人阳了,我们全层密接。15 点知道,23 点左右送酒店。有大肚的同事可以安排居家 7 天,我们去的酒店不错。酒店期间可以叫外卖,条件不错。走的时候一样要街道接(闭环),或者你在酒店+3 天就可以自己走。 那是 10 月的,但现在已经不同了,人手不够,不可能有什么好体验。放开后的一段时间肯定比这更加差,做好心理准备。看到了红马没第一时间被妥善处置,让「防疫」这么严肃的一件事突然变得滑稽。 使用大型的信息系统的帮助,应该能很快安排好一切。 反正一切资源都是国家的,所有人力物力都会遵从调配,那把具体化的政策、应对机制、资源都整合在养马🐴的平台上,很难? 零售可以自动化,防疫资源分配应该也行?发布会:以快制快基层:以静制动 在深圳看到阳了就赶紧跑,回到家等大数据封也好过封在公司啊 还是太年轻了,看多了就习惯了。 不知这波又有多少人遭殃 之前被封过十天,对你描述的乱象感同身受,防疫爱好者跟他们的主子都一样该死感同身受,我越来越理解高喊自由的人们了。。。。       
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The black satirical short film Dinner for the Few tells the darkest moment in human history in just a few minutes!
Abstract: Nothing to say. Accelerate and accelerate and again. Dinner for the Few DINNER FOR FEW from Nassos Vakalis on Vimeo. “Dinner For Few” is a ten minute CG-animated film depicting a sociopolitical allegory of our society. During dinner, "the system" works like a well-oiled machine. It solely feeds the select few who eventually, foolishly consume all the resources while the rest survive on scraps from the table. Inevitably, when the supply is depleted, the struggle for what remains leads to catastrophic change. Sadly, the offspring of this profound transition turn out not to be a sign of hope, but the spitting image of the parents. EMMY award winning animation artist Nassos Vakalis directed and wrote the film and the animation was produced in the United States of America and Greece with the technical and artistic collaboration of Eva Vomhoff from Germany. “Dinner For Few” is produced and funded by Nassos Vakalis and his wife Katerina Stergiopoulou. The original music is composed by Kostas Christides and performed by the Bratislava Symphonic Orchestra. “Dinner For Few” was inspired by the economic recession affecting South European countries like Greece, Italy, Spain and Portugal. Nassos Vakalis grew up in Greece, where his family and most of his friends still live. “Dinner For Few” not only reflects his deep concern of the social and economic developments during the crisis but also highlights the inevitable and cyclical nature of the human affairs throughout history. Through its festival run “Dinner for few” screened at over 250 international film festivals and won 78 awards. It was one of the 60 Animated Shorts that Qualified for the Academy Awards in 2015. H264: DINNER-FOR-FEW.mp4 Reference: 1.加速主义 2. 黑色讽刺动画短片《少数人的晚餐》,短短几分钟却讲述人类历史上最黑暗的时刻! 3. Dinner for Few: Interview with Nassos Vakalis 4. Dinner For Few is an allegorical animation depicting our society that benefits a…
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What makes me feel comfortable and calm during the strict zero-covid policy on china’s mainland is that online watching IU’S concert named golden hour in Seoul, Korea.
It is a pity that it is difficult for citizens to leave China Mainland due to the influence of the PRC (china mainland) government's strict management and control policy on covid-19. Fuck, dynamic reset or dynamic zero-COVID policy. The city is often closed and locked down, and the wallet is cleared. Patients with novel coronavirus pneumonia (covid-19 /Sars-Cov-2) always appear. The effect of the zero-clearing policy is not good at all. When people are forced to accept the government's management, there is no economic subsidy, and we have to consume our savings to buy high-priced goods or food under the strict urban blockade. Not to mention, the business is difficult, and the income has declined. It is difficult and impossible at all to make citizens appreciate the government. Maybe only music can make people feel a moment of comfort. The video content that is not specially marked is the reprinted content by default, and it is updated from time to time. if infringement your rights, contact me to delete it. Welcome to cooperate. 220917-The-Golden-Hour-Concert, Seoul, Korea. 十分遗憾的是,由于中华人民共和国政府对于新型冠状肺炎严格管理控制政策的影响,很难离开中国大陆。去他妈的,动态清零。动辄封城,钱包清零了,新型冠状病毒肺炎患者总是在出现,清零政策效果一点也不好。当民众被迫接受政府的管理时,不仅没有经济补贴,反而在严格城市封锁下艰难度日,消耗积蓄购买高价商品或食品,很难让公民产生好感。更不用说,企业经营困难,收入下降了。 或许只有音乐可以令人感受到片刻的安慰,罢了。 未特殊标注的视频内容默认为转载内容,不定期更新,侵权联系删除,欢迎合作。
Until 2022, the China mainland government, still Forces residents to do compulsory nucleic acid tests.
Image text recognition results: Wanshitong 皖事通: Anhui province government affairs service online center Ankang Code (Anhui Province Health Code, East China)Toggle Respect for the Elderly Version Ankang Code Hefei Important notice July 18, 2022, There is still 11:07:00 before the pop-up window cannot be closed. Nucleic acid testing personnel. Please complete at least one nucleic acid test. The Ankang Code will automatically remove the pop-up window after automatically obtaining (or uploading a user's complaint) a negative nucleic acid test report. The pop-up window can be closed within 24 hours. If the system does not automatically obtain (or the user does not upload) the negative nucleic acid test report, the pop-up window will not be closed, and you will not be able to use the Ankang Code. I want to appeal the Nucleic acid test pre-registration code Nucleic acid test report Vaccination inquiry: vaccinated x2+1 Nucleic acid test report: no record within 48 hours Relying on the national integrated government service platform to achieve cross-provincial data sharing and mutual recognition. 图片文字识别结果: 皖事通:安徽省在线政务服务中心 安康码 切换敬老版 安康码(安徽省健康码,华东) 合肥 重要提示 2022年07月18日 距离本弹窗无法关闭还有 11:07:00 弹窗编号( 根据安徽省防疫政策,经流调排查和大数据分析,您可能为未在规定的时间内进行核酸检测人员。请本人至少完成一次核酸检测,安康码将在自动获取(或用户申诉上传)本人核酸检测阴性报告后自动解除弹窗。24小时内弹窗可以关闭,如果在24小时后安康码系统未自动获取(或用户未上传)本人核酸检测阴性报告,弹窗将无法关闭,您将无法使用安康码。 我要申诉 核酸检测预登记码 核酸检测报告 疫苗接种查询: 已经接种疫苗x2+1核酸检测报告: 48小时内无记录依托全国一体化政务服务平台,实现跨省数据共享和互通互认.
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There are too many different ways to deal with the epidemic, so why do we care so much?
Today, after reading Langzhong, Sichuan news about the self-funded nucleic acid test for new coronary pneumonia, I lost the last bit of goodwill. Everything has a cost. It doesn't matter whether nucleic acid testing is charged or free.We should be more concerned about whether we are the target of protection in this epidemic. From the so-called non-essential (absolute prohibition in actual implementation), non-essential prohibition from leaving the community, campus, city, non-essential out-of-province, and non-essential out-of-country. All sorts of so-called non-essentials constitute shirk, and many become the price.Perhaps, some people feel that the so-called city closure is too scary. They have created a series of new words, such as dynamic clearing, social clearing, social control, static management, bubble management, global static… Here In the first stage, some people really have no income and need to face the cost of rising prices, so they only choose bridge holes and park seats as shelters. It's so pitiful. While worrying about their situation, you can imagine your own future situation and feel that life is dark and hopeless. If you are just ruled, Don't say anything; keep silent. ------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------ At the end of April, people in Beijing lined up for nucleic acid testing. Credit Carlos Garcia Rawlins/Reuters The following is reproduced from:https://www.nytimes.com/zh-hans/2022/05/12/world/asia/pandemic-words.html https://web.archive.org/web/20220529094559/https://www.nytimes.com/zh-hans/2022/05/12/world/asia/pandemic-words.html The full text is as follows:Notes of Overseas Chinese - From "dynamic clearing" to "room entry and disinfecting", can you understand the vocabulary of the epidemic?"Pop-up window", "control area", "silent period", and "dynamic clearing"… During the epidemic, Chinese "new words" emerged one after another, which made people like me feel lost in their native language. I gave myself a self-study course called "Pandemic Vocabulary 101", but the course was more difficult than I expected.By Rong Xiaoqing May 12, 2022Welcome to this issue of "Notes on Overseas Chinese" I am Rong Xiaoqing, a…
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Day-Music
red velvet's song "start-up" is quite well. please have fun. Korean-drama "start-up" Red velvet music is excellent, there is a feeling of positive force when starting a businessI watched the TV drama "start-up" and was drawn to this song. And to be honest, the Korean drama is middle-appraised and involves part of the story about a startup getting VC financing. It is still a love drama and cannot be regarded as entrepreneurial.Enjoy the happiness and think for a few moments instead care too much.